Relationship Playbook!
Activities to build trust & add strength, stability, and fun to your significant relationships
Are you tired of relationship books full of platitudes, with advice that doesn't tell you how to use it?
Are you ready for your relationship to thrive? Take on new energy? Move to a whole new level?
Then you're ready for this book!
Soft cover, 145 pages
There are four major categories in this book:
Relationship Hors d'Oeuvres!
That’s our term for this collection of powerful tidbits of advice we’ve created. For each Hors d’Oeuvre, we invite you to spend time together “digesting” it. We’ve included a series of conversational prompts to stimulate your conversation. Remember, that is simply the beginning. Allow your discussion to dig deep and really have meaningful conversation surrounding each hors d’oeuvre you select.
Fun Questions to Stimulate Discussions that can Go Deep and Strengthen Understanding!
We’ve discovered that one of the most relationship-enriching activities you can experience is deep-diving together into fun questions that allow you to authentically reveal your vulnerability with each other … risk-free! While these “Suppose …” questions may appear to be light-hearted and even somewhat shallow on the surface, trust us! Each one provides the opportunity for a deeper conversation that can be eye (and heart) opening!
Playful Activities to Bring Fun to Your Relationship!
One of the greatest discoveries we made as we strengthened our own relationship was the power of FUN! We also realized that we had to make fun a priority; otherwise, life just gets in the way! In this section, we are sharing a variety of activities that you can easily do together. It simply requires you to schedule the time and make it a priority! You’re welcome!!
An Appendix You Don’t Want to Cut Out: Tip Sheets!
We found that this book just would not stop writing itself! Every time we thought we were finished, we’d think of one more thing to include! That’s why we added the Appendix, which includes a few Tip Sheets, offering our top five tips to deal with specific “pressure points” in relationships. We invite you to check out these tips, then add your own spin to the issues that affect your relationship. Plus (drumroll, please) we wrap everything up with our #1 Bonus Tip that can literally transform your relationship forever! (And it works in other situations in your life as well!)
A Few Samples ...
Pay attention to how you are practicing forgiveness—which means releasing the grudges, and not saving them in some secret backpack to drag out at a later time. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, and it adds richness to your relationship when you are able to forgive and release! (Excerpt, page 19)
Suppose you could be on the filming set of your all-time favorite movie. What is the movie, and what would you like to do while you’re there? (Excerpt, page 26)
We're all a little weird, and life's a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. (Robert Fulghum)
Share with each other your memories of the funniest things that have happened since you’ve been together.
(Excerpt, page 45)
Make sure of this one thing: that the person you choose to stay with is someone you don’t have to shrink yourself for, cut yourself into smaller pieces for, minimize yourself for. The person who’s meant for you will call you into higher parts of yourself, encouraging you to rise, to soar higher. (C. JoyBell C.)
Co-write a resumè outlining your qualifications to be the perfect soulmate for one another.
(Excerpt, page 61)
The greatest tragedy for any human being is going through their entire lives believing the only perspective that matters is their own. (Doug Baldwin)
5 Tips to Disagree With Compassion and Love
- Keep your discussion focused on the topic at hand. Don’t allow it to escalate into name calling, bringing up old stuff from the past, or all the other things that bother you! Agree to be honest and clear with each other during your discussion. Remember, your partner is not a mind reader! Let your partner know what’s on your mind, what you need from them, and why it is important to you.
(Excerpt, page 133)
About the Authors: Cher & Bil Holton
Cher & Bil Holton are marriage partners, business partners, dance partners, co-authors, and fun-lovers! With 45 years of marriage under their belts, they know what it takes to create a deep, lasting relationship -- and now they're sharing their secrets!